What do you want to be when you grow up?

Description sommaire Public Displays of Affection
Secrets for a More Satisfying Relationship
A Note To Guys About Helping Your Date Feel Safe
Avoid the First Date Let Down
Letting Go of the Control Freak
Keep It Classy America
How To Be More Emotionally Low Maintenance
I Like Me!
Why Are You Still Single?
How Do You Meet Someone New?

I cannot count how many times over the years people have asked me that. And for at least the last ten years, my answer has been short, sweet, and more than a little flip. So what does Jane Wonder want to be when she grows up? Happy.

Just….. happy. No restrictions on how, or why, or where. Just happy. And I feel like for as long as I can remember I’ve been struggling to just be happy. I was never happy with the first job I took at my company. It was stupid work that I mocked while I was anywhere but there. I wasn’t happy with my first husband either. On some level I always knew he was lying and cheating and stealing. So I ditched him and started dating what would be my second husband, then I got a new job. But I still wasn’t happy. The job was nice enough but the second husband was an embarrassment. In my secret heart of hearts I always thought I could do better. And, after being shoved halfway across my house and threatened, I realized I could. And I left.

After that some funny things started happening. I got another new job that I really enjoyed. And then I met this great guy. And life just started cruising along on auto pilot and I stopped paying attention.

Until last week. Last week I was coming home from work. I had my sunroof open, my music blasting, and I was dancing in the car and singing my fool head off. The weather was gorgeous and I was heading home to be with my favorite person. And that’s when it happened. Out of the blue and without warning. I realized that I’m happy.

Wow. I mean what a revelation for a Wednesday afternoon. I wasn’t really pondering my life or where I am or where I’m going. I wasn’t inventorying successes or joys. I was just driving down the road when it came to me like some kind of crazy cartoon AHA! moment. I’m actually happy. And to tell the truth, I’ve been grinning ever since.

Now, just don’t tell me this means I have to be a grown up…

Groupe de travail concerné

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Début de l'événement 08.05.2022

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]]> Thu, 08 May 2025 15:01:46 +0000 3 Reasons Not To Buy Her Lingerie

3 Reasons Not To Buy Her Lingerie

Description sommaire 5 Tips To Manage The Holidays When You Are Single
Do You Need A Love Detox From Your Ex?
Is Your Ego In Charge Of Fixing Your Love Life?
10 Signs That You Are A Love Junkie
6 Ways To Help Your Children Through Divorce
Are You More In Love With Him Than He Is With You?
When You Become Desperate for a Date Night
Losing the Fights in Your Relationship
Advice On First Dates
Why Men Don’t Want To Date Strong Women
How Do I Get A Date?
Have I Found The One?
How Can I Get A Girlfriend?
3 Steps To Starting Successful Conversations
Is It Okay To Tell Her She Looks Fat?
Should I Give Up On This Girl?
4 Things I Should Tell You Before We Start Dating
Life After Divorce: Papers Not Yet Signed & She’s Already Dating My Friend!

You don’t understand what you’re dealing with. You wear jeans yourself but you know better than to try buying her a pair. Why ever would you try to pick out something based on a general approximation of size? You shouldn’t.
Your concept of “great idea” lingerie is not hers. Yes, corsets are lovely to look at and do amazing things to proportion…try before you buy, Mr!
You lose the element of surprise. If you’ve already been to the store, seen it in a magazine, or purchased it online, you have an idea of what it looks like.
The Solution?

Buy her a giftcard to a lingerie store she really likes. If you don’t know where she likes to shop but have access to her lingerie, the place that makes the lingerie she wears when she’s dressing is a place she’ll be glad to visit again. If you’d never consider shopping with a woman, reconsider for a lingerie shopping trip. Make sure you’ve already bought that giftcard. Even though it has your money on it, using a gift card feels like its free.

Valentine’s Day is coming up. If you want to get her some lingerie, give her a gift card a week or two early. She’ll love you for it and I dare say you’ll enjoy what your gift inspires.

Best to you!

Seth

Groupe de travail concerné

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Début de l'événement 16.04.2023

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]]> Wed, 16 Apr 2025 15:17:47 +0000 Date #154: Michael Douglas meets Christopher Walken

Date #154: Michael Douglas meets Christopher Walken

Description sommaire You're Never Too Old For True Love!
Why Dating Tips Aren’t Working for You
Turn Your Holiday Blues Into Real Love
Love Problems? Never Run From The Issue - Solve It
You Need Only One Man To Find True Love
Finding A Man Isn't The Answer
Why Can't Your Heart And Head Like The Same Person
Quit The Blame Game & Ditch Bad Relationship Behaviors For Good
Do You Have A Love Leak?
We Got Married Too Young
We Keep Tearing Each Other Down

Poor "Michael Douglas meets Christopher Walken" - he was just a bit socially awkward. The fidgeting. The admission that he doesn't go out much, and goes on an internet date every two or three months.

Note to self: if you SENSE someone may be a bit strange from their emails -- there's a good chance that they ARE!

The name comes from the fact that he was pretty decent looking (like a young Michael Douglas) ... but had the monotonous speaking patterns of Christopher Walken.

Really -- I tend to think that I have a tough time with dating in NY, but this guy seems to have it worse. I felt bad for him when he left a message the next day, asking if I'd like to get together again -- I emailed him, thanking him for his message, but I just didn't feel the kind of chemistry I'm looking for. It felt like the kind thing to do.

*

Speaking of dating trouble -- well, maybe it's a bit premature to say it's "trouble" just yet, but I'm not feeling as optimistic about Mr 2010 as I was earlier this week. No real communication after our last date until today, when he called to cancel our date for tonight -- he was under the weather, and he did actually sound sick. Still, my gut is now telling me: don't get your hopes up about this one.

I've been wrapped up in my head about this today -- disappointment over him, and dating in general -- and yet (as always), typing this out here is helping to make me feel just a bit better, and put things in perspective.

It sucks, but I'll be fine. If it doesn't work out with him? Then it wasn't meant to be, and I'll meet someone else. Still, saying that -- he "felt" more right than any other guy has in a long time. Sigh.

I've decided: the Michael Douglas etc guy is going to be my LAST internet date for a while. I've let my Jdate membership run out. I'm just DONE, at least for now. Exhausted. Looking forward to taking a break from the dating merry-go-round. I have a busy month of work ahead of me, so I'm going to let that consume me for now. (along with the many plans with friends that seem to be popping up left and right)

Final note: interestingly -- just now, who should lift me a bit out of this funk but Martin -- yes, THE guy who disappointed me more than once in the past. We've become friends of late -- have gone out to dinner a few times. Just moments ago, he texted me to say he was in a nearby bar, and did I want to meet for a drink?

I declined -- it's late, and I'm about to go to bed, and I'm in a bit of a funk anyway. He texted back: no funk, gorgeous! Be your badass self! Mwah!

That made me smile -- isn't it funny how the littlest things like this can help shoo away a dark cloud?

Groupe de travail concerné

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Début de l'événement 14.04.2022

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]]> Mon, 14 Apr 2025 15:31:03 +0000 Back in town.
Back in town.

Description sommaire We Battle Constantly Over Our Autistic Child
We Became Parents and Fell Out of Love
We Became Parents...and Stopped Having Sex
We Can't Agree on How to Raise Our Child
We Can't Get Over Our First Marriages
Stress Of Infertility Is Hurting Our Marriage
We Can't Have a Baby
We Can't Get Pregnant and It's Driving Us Apart
It's Time to Be Real in Your Relationship
Pop Your Comfort Bubble & Open Up To Love
Find Yourself Before Finding The ONE
It's Not HIM Who's Afraid To Commit
How to Setting Boundaries Brings People Closer
Doubt Is Totally Keeping You From Finding Love
Do You Suffer From Pre-Mature Love Manifestation?
Are you looking for the finish line in love?
Learn the One Rule for Love and Dating

Just back in town after a lovely time away in a Somewhat Exotic Country. Barely thought about NY dating life while I was away... a refreshing change from my usual MO. And it didn't even occur to me to have a casual vacation fling -- it just wasn't that kind of trip.

Just before I left, I met two guys in "real life" circumstances (meaning, not through online dating). One could be a casual summer fling -- he's a few years younger than I am, and very sexy, but not someone I could really see as a long-term boyfriend. Let's call him SexyBoy.

The other, I think I'd want as more than just a fling. There's something about this guy -- he's quirky, cool, unconventional, cute, smart. I'm intrigued. We e-mailed a few times while I was away, and have a date planned for this week. (these guys are dates #133 and 134, respectively) I'm having trouble coming up with an appropriate blog name for him -- at least for now, "The Dude" feels right.

More to come -- I need to write about context. I wonder if there would have been a click if I'd met either of these guys online? In both cases, we have mutual friends -- that goes a long way.

Update on previous post: I seem to have once again filed away those feelings for New Guy. Maybe for good this time? We'll see.

George: after that really fun first date, never heard from him again. Only mildly surprising.
Groupe de travail concerné

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Début de l'événement 11.04.2022
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]]> Fri, 11 Apr 2025 15:10:36 +0000 Sunday weigh-in... Date #155... "karma is a bitch, and so am I!"
Sunday weigh-in... Date #155... "karma is a bitch, and so am I!"

Description sommaire Weird Boobs and Little Wieners
Our Son Is Disabled and It's Tearing Us Apart
Our Kids Drove Us Crazy
Our Home Renovation Is Wrecking Our Marriage
Our Grown Daughter Moved Back In
Our Dog is Coming Between Us
My Teenage Daughter Is Ruining Our Marriage
My Stepdaughter Is Ruining Our Marriage
(Broken) Laws of Attraction
Things You Should Be Doing To Find the Right Man
Why Splitting Costs Isn't Splitting Love
Why I Like Messed-Up Girls
Pilates It Is A Great Place To Meet Girls!
How to Date Your Partner Forever
Slender Young And Pretty Girls
Do I Only Date Pretty Women?
Let’s Just Get Naked
So… You Want to Date a Single Dad.

Sunday Weigh-in -- Week Two:
I'm a day early, but I'm not sure the scale will be so forgiving tomorrow. Today's numbers: 140.8 -- down 2.2 since last week, for a total of 3.2 lost! Yes!

True, part of that was because of a stomach bug that caused me to eat much less for a few days -- but I'll take it! Let's keep this train going!

Date #155 -- Dog Man:
Maybe because we'd "known" each other through Facebook for something like two years -- I just felt comfortable with him right away. He thoughtfully arranged for us to have dinner at a restaurant where his good friend is the chef -- oh my, way too much good food. I tried to restrain myself. Not easy!

After, we went to another spot for a drink, gradually sitting closer and closer. Eventually led to some sweet kisses -- not enough that we'd be implored to "get a room", but enough to know that we seem to have good kissing chemistry.

He emailed me a few days later, asking to make plans for this coming week. Looking forward to it -- he just "feels" like a good fit, for whatever that's worth.

*

Mr 2025
I know -- pretty ridiculous that he's still being mentioned here. As I wrote last time, we were supposed to have plans on Sunday -- I texted him about 4 pm asking if we were still on, and he never responded.

A friend reminded me of the Sex and the City episode where Carrie was stood up by a guy, but he had a very good excuse: he died. I certainly wouldn't wish death on anyone, even someone who stood me up -- but out of curiosity, I just had to find out if this guy was dead, in the hospital, or in jail. After all, why else would he NOT call me back? (please see the sarcasm here!)

A few days later, I emailed him, asking if he was still alive, and to please give me the courtesy of a return email -- he didn't even have to call. Nothing.

The next day, I wrote to our mutual friend, D, and mentioned my concern. She was surprised, and said that was completely unlike him, even though he was sometimes flaky, and forgot plans previously made. She texted him at 7 that night, and when she didn't hear from him by 1 am, she started getting worried as well.

The next day she finally talked to him (without mentioning me): turned out he'd been hella-stressed with his divorce. He's been separated for about a year, and lately his ex-wife has been giving him a hard time about who-knows-what. (ha -- maybe he hasn't been returning her calls...)

My first thought was: that means you can't take 10 seconds to text someone to let them know you need to cancel your plans? Dillhole.

My second thought (with a slightly evil grin on my face): Good. I'm GLAD you're having a hard time with this. Karmic retribution sucks, doesn't it?

I’m glad to hear that he’s alive, but a little happy that he’s going through a rough time with his ex – karma’s a bitch, isn’t it? I know one has nothing to do with the other, but in my mind: dude, that’s your payback for standing me up. What goes around, comes around. I feel a lot better!
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Début de l'événement 02.04.2022
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]]> Wed, 02 Apr 2025 15:13:46 +0000 Connecteur-Recherche
Connecteur-Recherche

Description sommaire Chercheurs et territoriaux partagent les enseignements de la crise autour de quatres thématiques:
• Management en situation de crise,
• Organisation de demain au service d’une nouvelle démocratie,
• Information, communication et systèmes de données.
• Apprentissages en situation de crise, quels enseignements dégager pour mieux apprendre
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Recherche - documentation

Début de l'événement 03.07.2020
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]]> Tue, 23 Jun 2020 17:59:38 +0000 Atelier Collaboratif
Atelier Collaboratif

Groupe de travail concerné

Coopérathon au service des défis des crises

Début de l'événement 07.05.2020
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]]> Mon, 04 May 2020 17:34:40 +0000 Réunion du groupe de soutien technique et pédagogique WikiAdmin
Réunion du groupe de soutien technique et pédagogique

Description sommaire Je vous propose un rendez-vous régulier : tous les lundi de 14h à 15h pour faire un point sur les travaux de notre groupe.
Groupe de travail concerné

Support technique et pédagogique

Lien vers l'espace de co-écriture associé https://ripostecreativeterritoriale.xyz/?DocumentTravail
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Début de l'événement 04.05.2020 - 14:00
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]]> Tue, 28 Apr 2020 10:08:18 +0000 Collaborathon - point d'avancement
Collaborathon - point d'avancement

Description sommaire Réunion du groupe de travail.
Retour d'expérience visio du 24 Avril et suite du projet
Groupe de travail concerné

Coopérathon au service des défis des crises

Début de l'événement 30.04.2020 - 09:00
Fin de l'événement 30.04.2020 - 10:30

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]]> Tue, 28 Apr 2020 08:30:15 +0000 Réunion des référents des groupes de travail
Réunion des référents des groupes de travail

Description sommaire Comme chaque mercredi après-midi, désormais, nous nous retrouvons pour discuter de l’évolution du projet Riposte Créative Territoriale avec l’ensemble des référents des groupes de travail.

Merci d'alimenter l'ordre du jour en amont de la réunion (voir le lien vers le pad ci-dessous)
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Début de l'événement 29.04.2020 - 15:00
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]]> Tue, 28 Apr 2020 08:13:45 +0000 Point sur l'avancement des travaux du groupe Support WikiAdmin
Point sur l'avancement des travaux du groupe Support

Description sommaire Je vous propose de faire un point sur l’avancement des travaux du groupe le lundi 27 avril.
Pour les nouveaux venus ce sera l’occasion de nous présenter et de cadrer notre mission.
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Support technique et pédagogique

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Début de l'événement 27.04.2020 - 11:00
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]]> Thu, 23 Apr 2020 10:48:48 +0000 Réunion WIKI WikiAdmin
Réunion WIKI

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Support technique et pédagogique

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Début de l'événement 14.04.2020 - 09:30
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]]> Mon, 20 Apr 2020 15:21:38 +0000 Groupe Communication - Accueil - Réunion en visio via Jitsi Meet
Groupe Communication - Accueil - Réunion en visio via Jitsi Meet

Description sommaire Poursuite de l'amélioration de la relation aux membres et des actions de communication
Groupe de travail concerné

Communication - accueil - animation des espaces wiki et linkedin

Lien vers l'espace de co-écriture associé https://pad.colibris-outilslibres.org/p/RiposteCreativeSallePleniereAtelier1
Lien vers l'outil de visio associé https://meet.jit.si/ReuniongroupeComRiposte
Début de l'événement 12.05.2020 - 17:00
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]]> Tue, 14 Apr 2020 20:07:16 +0000 Groupe Communication - Accueil - Réunion en visio via Jitsi Meet
Groupe Communication - Accueil - Réunion en visio via Jitsi Meet

Description sommaire Poursuite des évolutions pour l'accueil sur le site, la relation avec les membres, la communication des actions
Groupe de travail concerné

Communication - accueil - animation des espaces wiki et linkedin

Lien vers l'espace de co-écriture associé https://pad.colibris-outilslibres.org/p/RiposteCreativeSallePleniereAtelier1
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Début de l'événement 05.05.2020 - 17:00
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]]> Tue, 14 Apr 2020 20:05:01 +0000 Groupe Communication - Accueil - Réunion vision via Meet jit
Groupe Communication - Accueil - Réunion vision via Meet jit

Description sommaire Groupe sur l'accueil, la relation avec les membres, la communication pour faire connaître Risposte
Groupe de travail concerné

Communication - accueil - animation des espaces wiki et linkedin

Lien vers l'espace de co-écriture associé https://pad.colibris-outilslibres.org/p/RiposteCreativeSallePleniereAtelier1
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Début de l'événement 21.04.2020 - 17:00
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]]> Tue, 14 Apr 2020 19:58:30 +0000 Groupe Communication - Accueil - Réunion en visio via Jitsi Meet
Groupe Communication - Accueil - Réunion en visio via Jitsi Meet

Description sommaire Réunion du groupe pour continuer à améliorer l'accueil, la relation avec les membres, faire connaître Riposte
Groupe de travail concerné

Lien vers l'espace de co-écriture associé https://pad.colibris-outilslibres.org/p/RiposteCreativeSallePleniereAtelier1
Lien vers l'outil de visio associé https://meet.jit.si/RIPOSTECOM_28_04_20
Début de l'événement 28.04.2020 - 17:00
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]]> Tue, 14 Apr 2020 18:02:07 +0000 Les jeudis du confinement local !
Les jeudis du confinement local !

Description sommaire En cette période de crise sanitaire, et de confinement pour la plupart d’entre nous, l’Unadel, Citoyens & Territoires Grand-Est et Territoires & Citoyens en Occitanie vous proposent des rendez-vous en ligne pour saisir la situation actuelle comme une opportunité d’échanger et réfléchir ensemble !
Prochain rendez-vous : Le développement local après le confinement : Mettre nos capacités collectives aux services des transitions ?
Discutant : Julian PERDRIGEAT (La Fabrique des Transitions)
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Début de l'événement 23.04.2020 - 09:45
Fin de l'événement 23.04.2020 - 11:45

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]]> Tue, 14 Apr 2020 16:54:47 +0000 Groupe de Travail Place des échanges
Groupe de Travail Place des échanges

Description sommaire Poursuivre le travail d'organisation et de répartition des différentes activités au sein du groupe, de traitement des demandes en cours et/ou en attente, etc...Bref avancer collectivement
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Début de l'événement 16.04.2020 - 15:30
Fin de l'événement 16.04.2020 - 17:00

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]]> Tue, 14 Apr 2020 13:51:50 +0000 Groupe Communication - Accueil
Groupe Communication - Accueil

Description sommaire La réunion du groupe qui impulse la communication concernant Riposte-créative, son lien avec le groupe LInkedin et qui propose des actions pour accueillir les nouveaux participants dans le projet
Groupe de travail concerné

Lien vers l'espace de co-écriture associé https://pad.colibris-outilslibres.org/p/RiposteCreativeSallePleniereAtelier1
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Début de l'événement 14.04.2020 - 17:00
Fin de l'événement 14.04.2020 - 18:00

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]]> Thu, 09 Apr 2020 14:00:44 +0000 Groupe Coopérathon
Groupe Coopérathon

Groupe de travail concerné

Début de l'événement 17.04.2020 - 14:30
Fin de l'événement 24.04.2020 - 14:30

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